It's no secret that divorce can be stressful. In fact, for many people, it's one of the most emotionally draining things they'll ever do.
Understanding how to destress during your divorce is vital. Remaining calm allows you to take a more measured approach to the divorce process, making decisions that benefit you in the short and long term and helping you achieve the best outcome in your case. Today, we're exploring some of the most effective ways you can destress during divorce.
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Don't Be Afraid to Ask for Help
Unfortunately, many people are hesitant to reach out to psychologists or other mental health professionals while they're going through a divorce.
Divorce is a long, stressful process. Parting ways with someone you intended to spend your life with is never easy, even if you're not on good terms anymore. What's equally distressing for many people is the idea of setting out alone and rebuilding their life. Finding a new place to live as well as figuring out what you can and can't take with you after your divorce among many other life changes can be emotionally challenging.
A mental health professional, such as a certified psychologist, can be an invaluable tool during a divorce. They'll help you process how you're feeling and develop different ways to cope with and work through those feelings on your own.
The less stressed out you are as you work through your case, the more rationally you can evaluate different decisions, such as whether you want to keep or sell the marital home, how you want to split other assets and property, etc. Visiting a therapist or psychiatrist may make it easier to process the divorce emotionally, and in turn, that could have a positive effect on the outcome of the case
As a caveat, it's also worth noting that support groups exist for divorcees. If you don't feel comfortable visiting a therapist or psychologist by yourself, consider trying to find a support group near you. Having a network of people who understand what you're going through is incredibly valuable during a divorce.
Try not to Repress Your Feelings
One of the first instincts many people have during a divorce is to suppress feelings of anxiety, depression, panic, etc. However, that's not necessarily always the best instinct to follow.
Repressing your emotions allows them to build up under the surface, creating constant tension in your life. It's often better (and easier) to just sit down and let yourself cry, rather than trying to hold it in constantly. Emotions are a natural part of human life and divorce. Processing them and releasing them as they come can help you stabilize your mental health throughout your divorce.
Focus on Other Things You're Doing Well
Divorcees often feel like everything is "falling apart" for lack of a better term, but that's probably more perception than it is reality.
Try and find something you do that you can have confidence in. Perhaps you perform well at your job and consistently receive praise from your colleagues. Maybe you've been playing guitar for seven years and have now started to learn advanced songs, or you just recently took up jogging and ran your first mile.
No matter how "insignificant" it may feel, it's important to recognize what you do well and use those activities as a source of stability. Doing so allows you to maintain a healthy sense of self-worth through your divorce and prevent your self-esteem from dropping. It can also give you an outlet to focus your energy into.
Do Something New
You may also want to consider developing a new hobby during your divorce, something you can separate from your relationship or your partner.
Frequently, old hobbies lose their spark during a divorce because it's difficult to separate them from the marriage. However, finding a new hobby can give you an escape into a different activity you can enjoy without thinking about the dissolution of your marriage.
For example, let's say you and your partner lifted weights together. Going to the gym may feel awkward or empty when you go alone. But what about rock climbing? Joining a running club or an intramural soccer team? All of these activities can allow you to remain active and physically fit without doing something that doesn’t bring the same enjoyment while you make this transition.
If you have children, finding a new hobby or activity is also a great way to ease them into the co-parenting dynamic. Starting to develop different activities for each parent to do with the children can help them adjust to being alone with each parent separately.
At Coker, Robb & Cannon, Family Lawyers, we understand just how difficult divorce can be. We'll work with you to develop a comprehensive case strategy for your divorce, fighting to protect your rights and pursue your best interests in and out of the courtroom.