How do you know when divorce is the right option for you? While you may have noticed for quite some time the strain and the toll the marriage has taken on you and your spouse’s life, how do you know when the situation is irreparable?
Obviously, divorce is a final step and is certainly not the solution to everyday problems that spouses encounter. You must first consider how well you and your spouse are communicating over any disagreements and how much both of you are willing to compromise over these.
Below, we discuss three signs that it may be time for a divorce.
You can no longer reconcile their flaws.
Love is about looking past a person’s flaws and accepting them. Unfortunately, if either of you cannot put the past behind or overlook those flaws, then that may be a warning sign. It goes beyond small issues, such as forgetting to put the dishes in the wash. It is deeper, to the point where one or the other spouse has lost respect for the other and can no longer maintain civility to hold the marriage together.
Conflicts over how to parent the children.
It is natural that parents might disagree on how to parent their children in some aspects. However, if you and your spouse are fighting with so much aggression, to the point where your children are beginning to feel the tension, then you need to take a step back and evaluate the situation. Children have a tendency to place blame on themselves when they see their parents fighting. Even though you may be hurting inside, you want to do everything you can to shield them from feeling that same level of hurt.
There is abuse in the home.
Domestic abuse in the home might go without saying. You know that you and your children deserve better. You can also file for protective orders or restraining orders to keep your abusive spouse away. Abusers will use a variety of tactics, especially guilt, to make you stay. This is a power play. If this is occurring, do not stay one minute longer. Your family should never have to be subject to verbal threats, fear, intimidation, and physical violence.
If you have any further questions about divorce and whether or not you should go forward with your case, please contact Coker, Robb & Cannon, Family Lawyers today. We have more than 20 years of experience helping families and can help you decide what’s right for you and your family.