The holidays are the time when families come together. For those who have
been recently divorced, this may be the first time you have to think about
your custody and visitation arrangements. If you are trying to work out
an agreement during for the holidays, understandably, this will become
one of the more emotional and contested matters between you and your spouse.
You want what is in your children’s best interests and want to continue
to provide them joyful holiday memories, but also you want them to be
able to spend time with you and your spouse’s family.
Speak with our Collins County and Denton County family law attorneys! Because
of our knowledge of the laws and the fact that we have successfully helped
countless families since 1998 is a testament to our longstanding commitment
to reaching your goals.
Arranging Your Holidays
After a divorce, families are forced to restructure and make new traditions.
You will have to think about how you want to spend the holidays, but also
what will benefit your children most. Having a game plan well in advance
can relieve some of the stress, so you will not be left scrambling at
the last minute.
We have found that families have found the following beneficial:
Every other year, families take responsibility in hosting the holiday gatherings.
For example, one parent has the odd-numbered years and the other the even-numbered.
It is important that you communicate with your children and help them
to understand that there they will not be spending every holiday with you.
Splitting the Holidays
This is common among families. Celebrate Thanksgiving with one parent’s
side of the family and Christmas with the other side. Or, children spend
half of the day with one parent and the rest of the day with the other.
This is possible if the parents live close by. Planning and communication
are key for this arrangement, as you do not want to spend most of the
children’s time traveling.
Doubling up on Holidays
There is no better way to spend a holiday than doing it twice! The children
can spend the actual holiday day with one parent, and still celebrate
the same one on another day with the other.
As always, your children come first and the steps you take now can ensure
that they will have memories to cherish and look back on. This is a difficult
time of year for everyone, but remember that you can continue to maintain
tradition, but also start new ones.
For more information or advice on divorce or family law matters, call CokerLegal today.