As if coping with a divorce is not terrible enough, the approaching holiday
season only amplifies the feelings of stress and sadness tenfold. Although
it may seem like an insurmountable challenge, if you could manage to survive
this time of year, think about how much stronger you could become when
it’s all over. Here are some helpful tips to cope with divorce during
Make a Schedule
Instead of letting your emotions get the best of you at home or waiting
for a friend or family member to give you a call, create an active schedule.
Whether it’s shopping, spending time with family and friends, trying
something new or something that makes you feel good, comprise a list of
everything you want to accomplish.
Start New Traditions
While you feel some of the past traditions should remain, it’s a
great idea to create some new rituals with friends and family. If you
have children, you could take some time and brainstorm with them about
new ideas for celebrating, like volunteering at a soup kitchen to feed
the homeless. You should essentially reassure them that the spirit of
the holidays still remain. If a new custody order has changed the schedule
for your holiday traditions, start new ones. Enjoy the chance to avoid
Christmas-day traffic and start celebrating a few days earlier or later.
Set New Holiday Goals
Whether it’s watching every holiday special on TV, making a gift
for each family member, or reorganizing the filing cabinets, setting yourself
a goal or creating a project can help you focus on something other than
the loneliness of the holidays and give you a feeling of accomplishment.
Seek Assistance from Supportive Family and Friends
If you are feeling lonely and depressed, having a healthy support system
to rely upon helps tremendously. They are there to listen, offer companionship,
and perhaps provide you with loving guidance. If you have family members
and friends who have gone through divorce as well, their experiences may
relate to your current situation.
Take Care of Yourself
Don’t let overeating and over-partying derail you off the track toward
bettering yourself. Getting the proper amount of sleep, diet, and exercise
will make you naturally feel great about yourself. Adding walking or other
activities to your new holiday traditions can help you through the holidays
in multiple ways.
New Year, New Beginning
Even though you have experienced your fair share of New Year festivities,
this year will be significant for so many reasons. Take this opportunity
to embrace the fact that this is going to be the start of a better life
for you and your family. Once you survive this holiday season, imagine
what you will be able to do next year.